Soon after I found out, my boyfriend broke up with me — he said he couldn't deal with it. Unfortunately, I had to deal with it. I did not have health insurance, was not making much money at all and the boyfriend that got me pregnant was unemployed.
When we got pregnant the first time, we were in no position to parent a child right then, and had an abortion at eight weeks. It was not pleasant, but then neither is getting a dental cavity filled.
I found myself pregnant when I was in graduate school in social work, in a relationship with a Vietnam veteran who'd been injured and had signs of what now would be called PTSD. I was taking the pill, we were much in love, but no way were we considering marriage. I got an early pregnancy test,