I’ve always been extremely careful since I became sexually active because I don’t want to have the difficult decision of having an abortion. But when I was 33, my IUD failed and I became pregnant. I had a 9-year-old and a 2-year-old and a job and a house and a husband, and I was terrified of stretching myself even thinner. I thought so hard about the choice for 3 solid days until the choice became clear to me. I had the abortion, and I’ve never regretted it because I listened to my heart. But I’ve also never told my parents and only the siblings I really trust. I made sure my kids know so they won’t feel alone if they ever face a similar situation.